
This post is not easy for me because I have never been
comfortable making myself vulnerable with those closest to me, much less in
such a public forum. Practicing openness this year has definitely not been easy but I have
been so blessed each and every time I have stepped out of my comfort
zone. I have been praying fervently about this post, and I can’t
shake the feeling that sharing my testimony may help someone else out there. I feel like I was chosen to tell this story for a reason, and I hope that it
will resonate and maybe help others to recognize the stealthy way the enemy
moves among us.
I don’t want to get into too much of the details because
they aren’t really important, but to give a brief synopsis, I had been dating
what I thought was the most wonderful man for a little over a month and a half. We will just call
him "G" for the purpose of the story. He was perfect for me in every way. He was funny,
attentive, caring and always made me a priority. He would text me all day and most of
the night, sometimes into the wee hours of the morning. He drove me to work 3-4
times a week, and we saw each other as often as possible. I had never been with
someone who treated me like such a princess and I had never felt more cherished. I
fell and I fell hard. How could I not? He was the answer to my prayers. God had
finally provided the man of my dreams that I had been praying for for a very
long time…or had he? You see, this week, I discovered that G was living a
double life. He had lied to me about everything. I did not even know his real
last name. Every single thing we shared and talked about for the last two
months had been a lie, an intricate web of deceit designed to bring me to my knees.
To say I was devastated would be an understatement.
After finding out about his lies, I did my share of crying,
obviously, but I also did my share of praying. I kept going back to a passage
in the Fervent book that described how satan attacks by hitting
you exactly where he knows it will hurt the most. For me, he knew that area was love.
I have been out a few times since my divorce but nothing ever really seemed
right. I have been so lonely for companionship and love and affection that satan knew
if he provided the right circumstances, I would be ripe for the picking. Like
Priscilla preached at the conference, the enemy wants our hearts because once he has
our hearts, it is game over. So, he placed in my path the “perfect” man. G met
all of my qualifications and all of my needs. (And yes, I had a list. Lol) I convinced myself that
he was the man God wanted for me even though looking back now I can see the warning
signs and the little God nudges. While I had been praying for the perfect man, I hadn’t
really been listening to the Holy Spirit and I guess I thought that I knew what
I needed better than God did.


By the way, I don’t negate G’s role in the deception because
he made his decisions and is responsible for his actions. But, I also recognize that he was a pawn in this calculated frontal assault on my heart by the enemy.
Satan uses our sinful natures to his advantage. Knowing that, I was able to
offer forgiveness to G and some measure of comfort (part of a Fervent lesson)
that I never would have been able to do a year or two ago. Not only that, but at the conference, several women and I prayed together for G and his
family. I prayed that God would restore his marriage, that He would heal their
hearts and soften them toward each other. That He would repair the breaks in their family and negate
any damage that I may have unknowingly caused. What satan attempted to use for
evil, God IS going to work for good. He is the ultimate healer and redeemer and
He has the power to restore any relationship that is lifted up to Him. I
believe that He can do that for G, and I will be praying fervently for that to
happen.
So, several lessons to take away from this life lesson:
1.
If it is too good to be true, you probably need
to do some examining to figure out if it is from God or the enemy.
2.
Listen to the Holy Spirit when He speaks to you
and pray for discernment so that you will know it is the path for you.
3.
Don’t think that you know more than God about
what is best for you. All the lists in the world will not mean a thing if it
is not His will.
4.
When satan attacks we need to protect ourselves
by putting on the full armor of God. We must live in truth, guard our hearts
through righteousness, remain faithful, and arm ourselves with the Word.
5.
Above all, we must FERVENTLY pray.
Satan knows the final outcome of this war. He knows that he
is defeated in the end but he plans to take as many people as possible with
him. Be strong in your faith. Troubles will come but if you rely on God, He
will carry you through. You do not have to carry around the guilt or shame or
hurts from the past. Satan wants you to believe that but it is a lie. You have
already been forgiven for all, you only have to repent and lay it down at His
feet. I pray that this helps just one person out there. Maybe you are in a
similar situation to mine. Maybe your marriage is under attack. Maybe your
finances are messy or you are harboring unforgiveness for a past hurt. God can
heal you. Don’t let satan win. Be vigilant against the wolf in sheep’s
clothing. Pray, pray and pray some more. Step out in faith and see what
happens. God has plans for us that exceed all of our expectations. We only have
to listen and trust Him.
God bless and keep you.