Thursday, October 10, 2013

Rough Day

I am emotionally exhausted. Today was so hard. I went to the memorial service of a dear friend's wife. I didn't know Kandy well but Ben is a former boss and a mentor. He was like family and I knew that today would be rough but I don't think I realized how rough. 

First of all, I don't generally do funerals. I just don't like them. I have gone to only a handful in my life and most were family. I don't want one for myself either. When I go, I just want a simple pine box and a hole in the ground. I don't want the flowers and fanfare and hooplah. Not that there is anything at all wrong with that but it's just not me. I understand the need to celebrate a person's life and completely respect that but it's not my preference. 

Today's service was a memorial service and it was beautiful. Kandy was loved and admired by so many. It was so hard to look at the pictures of her and Ben and the family and to imagine what they are going through right now. All three sons and Ben spoke and it just tore my heart out. I honestly don't know how they did it but what a testament to how much she was loved. She had just become a Grandma five weeks ago and I know that meant the world to her even though she didn't get to really enjoy it very long. 

Everyone who spoke talked about her love and compassion and her faith. She knew that God had a plan for her and she trusted that plan. She is no longer suffering and no longer in pain. Her faith and trust in The Lord shine to all as a great example of what it means to believe with your whole heart and to have a relationship with the Father. I know that Ben and family find comfort in the fact that they will be reunited one day on the Streets of Gold. 

I am so amazed with how they are coping. I don't know that I would be able to do that. I certainly wouldn't be able to speak. I am praying hard for comfort and a measure of peace for all of them tonight. 

Kiss your loved ones and take advantage of the time you have been given because tomorrow isn't promised. Make sure that they know today how much they mean to you and don't leave things unsaid.